Many people are still surprised at women solo-travelers. What would they say then about women solo-travelers with kids? There are plenty of adjectives people use to describe this kind of trips, ranging from foolish to extremely dangerous. What is the truth?
What kind of moms travel alone with kids?
Times have changed. We travel faster and communicate more easily than ever before. We can be spotted by technology any moment almost anywhere on this planet. That can make us feel less alone when traveling by ourselves. That may be a reason new brave moms increasingly decide on the trips with their kids.
All kinds of moms travel alone. Divorced and married, those who have never been married. Moms with teenagers and moms with toddlers, too.
WHY DO WOMEN TRAVEL ALONE WITH KIDS?
It is not always easy to find the right time for all members of the family. Actually, it is very difficult to do that. That is one of the reasons moms arrange trips for themselves and their kids, leaving busy fathers behind.
The more people, the more arguments. Moms and children may want to do something, but dads want to do something different. When traveling with moms only, the arguments are reduced by a certain percent.
A solo-traveler a mom sends a message to her kids – never give up, see the challenges, not the obstacles in front of you. A solo-trip with mom can be a life inspiring experience for kids.
Away from the technology they are typically exposed to, kids will have an opportunity to create new family manners, at least for a short time. It can be useful for family relations.
The world around us is a giant classroom. Traveling with a solo mom is like having a great teacher in the best-equipped classroom on earth. Kids learn wherever they go and whatever they do. On a journey, they acquire different skills, from learning about the marine life while snorkeling, to how-to tasks - how to purchase a ticket, how to board a plane, etc.
HOW CAN MOMS MAKE THE TRIP SUCCESSFUL?
It is very important to plan a kid-friendly itinerary and book kid-friendly accommodation. If you don't do so, the kids will be bored, and that will cause further trouble.
If anyone offers help, accept. It may be a friend who wants to travel with you or your mom. If the person doesn't bother you, an extra pair of hand will do. Naturally, you can get some help from fellow travelers, but don't expect too much. Once you decide to go alone, you must rely on yourself only.
Don't set your expectations too high. Your kids are just kids and although they may enjoy the trip, be prepared for some grumbling or whining (depending on their age) from time to time.
Although beach vacations or mountains may sound like a good idea, consider city options. Cities are packed with activities designed for kids, and they are always glad to explore these opportunities.
WHAT CAN A MOM EXPECT ON A TRIP?
No matter how determined and strong you are, you will be tired. There is luggage; there are planes and buses, urge to go to the toilet at the least appropriate time, running around, asking questions, and much more.
And there will be lonely nights with children finally asleep when you don't have anybody to share the impressions of the day with. Be ready, and you can overcome it. Take an interesting book with you; you will finally have time to read it. Ring up someone to talk about the experiences of the day – a friend, your parents or your sister, and you won't feel lonely any more.
WHAT DOES A MOM NEED WHEN TRAVELLING WITH TODDLERS?
It might seem a good idea to rent a safety car seat if you need one but think about taking your own. The one you rent might be poor quality or broken.
Don't forget some extra clothes in the carry on luggage, not only for your kid but for you as well. Traveling with small children is always a tidiness hazard.
Although the idea of the additional luggage doesn't seem a good one, it might be fine to have some home-made food in your bag. It is healthier and cheaper, and you don't have to look for it when there is not a single shop or restaurant around.
Travel potty may be a great idea. You can never know when to expect a surprise.
If you are relaxed, it is more likely that the kids will be, too. Your nervousness will bring additional stress to them.
Don't let the children behave badly with the excuse that they are tired or hungry. That can spoil your trip.
It is true that times have changed and that it is much easier to travel and communicate today. However, these facts can also be disadvantages for a solo mom traveler. You shouldn't be nervous and on guard all the time, but still you should be alert.
Arrange your trip well ahead of time so that you can work out all the details carefully. This will give you more confidence. You will be calm and concentrated on moment-to-moment actions.
Always let people know where you are and where you are heading.
Take another cell phone with you just in case, and keep it in a safe place in your luggage. Write down the important phone number in a booklet; you never know what might happen to your phones.
Don't carry too much money and credit cards you are not going to use. Instead, take traveler's checks from your bank.
Be careful when choosing a hotel. Besides the family-friendly option, it must be reputable and in a safe location.
If you travel by car, have your car checked before your trip. The car has to be safe because having something fixed on the road can be both dangerous and more expensive.
You should teach the kids to stay close to you and to each other at crowdy places.
It may sound funny but listen to your intuition. If you feel that something is wrong, it most likely is.
In spite of all these warnings and potential problems, you can have a great trip with your kids. Although you can not expect to relax and refuel, you and your children will see each other from a different angle. Take safety measures, trust your instincts, and pack your bags. The world is waiting for you.
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